Well, do they?
Of course you probably think you are, but there’s the catch. You’re not marrying you! Don’t get me wrong, it’s a good thing if you think you’re marriage material.
That means that you’ve got one of the essential qualities most men look for, but at the end of the day, what matters is does the man in your life see you as marriage material?
If not, then this article will share some tips with you on ways you can bring him around to seeing you for who you really are.
Note here, that I said, “bring HIM around to seeing you for who you really are.” That’s an important distinction, because the last thing we’ll ever tell you to do is to be someone you’re not.
You’re fine just the way you are, but you do have to make a few changes to present your true self in the proper light to the man you’re interested in. Here then, are the biggest, most important things you can do to get your man to see you as marriage material.
The first thing men look for in a woman they ultimately want to spend the rest of their lives with is someone who is authentic. Someone who’s just genuinely THEM, and who doesn’t need to pretend to be anything else. That means you may have to work on your self-confidence.
That can be tricky, because a great many women have issues with self-confidence. Is it any wonder? Society is horrible to women, bombarding them with ‘round the clock, unrealistic images about what a woman should ultimately be. What the perfect woman does, how she acts, and what she looks like.
The first best thing you can do then, is to ignore all of that. Make no mistake, it will be hard to do, especially in the beginning, but the single most important thing you can do to make a man start seeing you as the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with is to be your own, true self, and be comfortable in your own skin.
Be Together, But Apart
This is another tricky one for many women. If you haven’t done this yourself, then you probably know a friend who has. When she starts dating a new man, that new man becomes her whole world. Longstanding friendships are put on hold. “Girl’s Night Out” goes on, but without her, because she’s spending all her time with her new beau.
There’s nothing wrong with spending lots of quality time together with the man you love, but it’s a balancing act. A healthy, long term relationship requires constant care and feeding. That means spending plenty of time together. At the same time though, too much of a good thing can become bad. That means reserving some time just for you and your interests.
If it helps, look at this as playing a kind of extended version of “hard to get.” One of the reasons you want to set aside space and time for yourself is to preserve your identity as an independent woman, but the other reason, and just as important, is that you want your man to know that while you adore and cherish him, there are evenings when he’s just going to have to do without you, because you have a life outside of him.
Men have fragile egos. The second fastest way to a man’s heart is to make him feel like he’s your own, personal superhero when you’re together (the fastest way, of course, is through his stomach!). The beautiful thing about this is that that kind of attitude is infectious.
You do that for him, and build him up in front of your friends and his, and you’ll soon see him doing the exact same thing for you. That’s when your relationship starts feeling like a true partnership.
The two of you against the world, come what may. That’s’ when you both start seeing each other as people with serious long term potential.
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