Confidence. How’s yours? If you’re like most women, it’s not great. The reason for this is that our society is hard on women. Flip on the TV. Any channel. You’ll be bombarded by images of an utterly unrealistic rendering of feminine beauty.
From an early age, young girls are bombarded with these images. Is it any wonder then, that so many women have body and self-esteem issues when they enter adulthood?
It’s time to start unlearning all the things that society has drubbed into you and start making some new habits.
Understand this: Confidence isn’t something that you either have, or not.
It can be practiced and learned. Even if you don’t have a lot of it right now, there are a number of specific things you can do to boost your confidence, and doing that will make you happier, and get you in the right mindset to find the perfect man for you. Here’s how you start:
Just Let Go
It’s amazing how much baggage we collect and hold onto over the years, and it gets heavy! All that weight and baggage can leave you feeling drained, depressed, and devoid of confidence. Start on your journey toward greater confidence by letting go of all the bad stuff and baggage you’ve been carrying with you for years, and possibly decades.
Hold a little celebration. Light a candle, put on some of your favorite music and just let it go. Mentally cast it aside, bury it in a hole, and walk away, never to look back. You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel
Be Good To You
At least once a week, take an hour or so out of your day to do something nice for YOU. It could be anything from an hour long bubble bath to a trip to the stylist or getting your nails done. Anything that makes you feel sexy and beautiful. You might think it’s silly, or an extravagance you can’t really afford, but there are lots of things you can do to treat yourself that don’t cost money. The important thing is to take the time to be good to yourself, because you’re worth it.
Hang Around With The Right People
And by extension, stop hanging around with the wrong sorts, but who are the “right” people for you? Here’s one simple test that will tell you. Anybody who you spend time with who is constantly trying to change you – those are the wrong sorts. Anyone you spend time with who loves and accepts you just the way you are…those are the right types. Start paying attention to the way people treat you, and distance yourself from those who seem hell bent on trying to change who you are.
Don’t put on a false face to the world. Instead, show the world who you really are. Let them see you as you truly are. When you wear a mask, you diminish yourself for no good reason. Remember that there’s nobody quite like you in all the world. You’re a wonder. A truly unique creation. Celebrate that, and the world will celebrate it with you. Besides, men find women who have the courage to be authentic to be incredibly sexy.
Practice Makes Perfect
Want to know the fastest way to gain confidence? Push your limits. Test your boundaries. Step right up to the edge of your comfort zone. Start small. If you’re scared of heights, go to the fair and ride the Ferris Wheel, or take one of those thirty-minute helicopter rides. If you’re afraid of the water, take swimming classes at the local YWCA.
The more of those kinds of things you do, the more quickly you’ll find your boundaries expanding.
You may not notice it right away, but one day, not long from now, you’ll wake up and suddenly realize you’re a lot more confident than you were just a few weeks earlier. That newfound confidence will push you to do even more.