How To Create Instant Infatuation

Every journey begins with a single step. That’s true of life in general, and it’s true of relationships. Every great relationship that has ever existed, or will ever exist, started out with boy meets girl, stealing glances from across a room (crowded or otherwise), until one of them works up the courage to come over and strike up a conversation.

Then question then, is how to make those conversations more likely to happen? And when they do happen, how do you keep it interesting, because keeping it interesting is the key to creating infatuation. Below, we’ll show you some simple tricks for how to do just that.

love1Get In The Game!

So let’s start with the basics. You can’t create infatuation if you’re not even playing the game, and yes, you SHOULD look at it as something of a game. It’s the love game. The match game, and you’re playing to win a lifelong relationship. That’s the reward waiting for you at the end, so get to it!

No one is going to wander up to the door of your home or apartment, knock on the door, and fall madly in love with you. That might make a good movie plot, but in the real world, it just never happens, which means, of course, that you have to go where the love of your life might be!

You’ve got to get out there and, if not start actively looking, then at least be in a place where you can be found. Set aside at least one evening a week for this purpose, and more if you’re able to.

It could be anything from spending an hour at the food court, to settling back in a comfy chair at your favorite book store, or anything else that interests you. The important thing though, is to get out!

Be Available

It’s not enough to get out. Here’s something you probably don’t know. Guys are not as confident as you think. It takes a lot of guts and nerve for them to walk up and say hello. Odds are, if you’re with a group, even if a guy is interested in you, he’s not going to bother.

Why? Because all of your friends represent an audience. It’s bad enough to get shot down one on one, but few guys will risk getting shot down in full view of your entourage. Most of them simply won’t even approach you!

If you’re following the advice above about “getting in the game,” then brining along one, two, or six of your besties works against you, because even though you’re “out,” you’ve also made yourself largely unapproachable by surrounding yourself with your posse. If you do see a man looking and smiling at you, and you think you might be interested, take a moment to separate yourself from your friends and catch the man’s eyes and smile as you do so. That gives him an opening that, if he’s genuinely interested, he can approach you.

Be Chatty

Note that this says be chatty, not catty! Remember when we said above that every great relationship started with a conversation? It’s true, but why leave it to chance, or to the man you’re interested in to start that conversation? You can literally more than double your chances if you’re willing to make the first move and say hello. Do that, and when you do, here are three ways you can catch his interest.

  • Ask for help/Advice: Guys love this. It can be something as simple as you “lost” your cell phone and need to make a quick call (make it a wrong number, or to a family member, just a quick check in). When you do this, you put yourself out there. You’re showing vulnerability, and the man gets to “be the hero” who saves the day. It’s a small thing, sure, but the impact can be enormous, and it immediately gives you more things to talk about (the phone, his awesomeness for helping you, and so on).
  • Arbitration: This works best if you are out with your friends, and you’ve stepped away from them for a moment. Instead of waiting to see if he comes to you though, you go up to him, and say something like, “Hi! So, my friend over there and I were having a debate and I was wondering if I could get your opinion…” It doesn’t matter what the debate is actually about, and there doesn’t have to be a debate (but if there isn’t, at least let your friend know what’s going on, in case it comes up later). In any case, you’ll ask the man you’re interested in a question and let him “weigh in” on it. Again, it stokes the fragile male ego, and whatever question you ask opens the door for more conversation.
  • tumblr_na9m16IB8S1r7eta3o1_500Pay him a compliment: This is about as simple and straightforward as it gets. Find something to compliment the man on. “Hi there! GREAT shirt! I love the way that color looks on you.” Or anything else you can think of. The compliment itself is important for its ego-boosting quality, but ultimately, it’s immaterial. The real magic is in getting the conversation started in the first place!


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